A Chat With Nat. #1

Hello, hi and welcome! 

So I thought I would introduce a new kind of post to my blog where I just chat (and probably ramble) about things that have bothered me in some type of way over the past month or so(may vary).

Think of it like I'm sharing a diary with you.  

I'm going to talk about different topics, whatever I feel like talking about and I hope you'll like it.. if not that's fine too. 

I sometimes feel like I have things on my chest that I can't get off and what better way than to write a blog post? 

OUTGROWING PEOPLE.

Although I am only 20 - soon to be 21, ahem - I have lived a very different life to some, without getting too deep I came from a broken family per say, my dad walked out when I was 5 and left my mum to take care of 2 children.

Anyway,(told you I would ramble), through my life I have met some amazing people, made great friends and experienced a lot with them. But looking back at memories and people in them I always find myself asking the questions of: where are they? I wonder what they're doing? I wonder if she's still in England? 

Is outgrowing people a bad thing? I have asked myself this question a lot. There's a reason certain people are in the past, and there's a reason they stay there. I couldn't imagine what my life would be like if every friend I had at school and every friend I had at college were still my close friends now. 

I have four amazing people who know me better than anyone else in the world. One friend I've known since I was five, we grew up together and still now to this day meet up when we can. We went from talking about Barbies to boys to makeup to college applications to university applications to rent and it all seems so surreal how much we've changed but our friendship hasn't. 

I never quite understood why some people stay in your life whereas others leave, sometimes it can be for a specific reason and you know you can't continue having them in your life but others just leave for no reason. You contact each other less and less and boom. Its your birthday and they don't wish you a happy birthday. Then the next thing is they're doing things in their life you didn't even know they had planned and they somewhat become just another face on Facebook who you scroll past. 

College was a weird time for me. I went to a college that none of my school friends went to, I basically had to make all new friends again and it made me feel sick. Although I don't mind making friends I worried that I wouldn't and that I'd spend three years of my course sat alone in the corner wishing I was anywhere but there.

But thankfully, that did not happen. 

My first year I made three amazing friends. We did everything together and I truly believed we'd be friends for life.

Then came the second year of college. My class was bigger and I made more friends and sort of, drifted from my three friends. They started doing stuff without me and I realised they were more interested in something that I wasn't. 

My third year of college was the best year. I was 18, I had a car and I made some amazing friends. My three friends all dropped out of my course by then so I kind of had to make new friends again as this course was harder and not many people stayed on to do it. I made two amazing friends who I even at one point called my best friends. We'd go on the craziest nights out, go on drives at stupid hours and have girly days with food and movies. 

But then came me getting my first nanny job in Switzerland. The second I moved there, I spoke with no one from college. They kind of just.. forgot about me. At first I was hurt, but I understand now. 

I moved on to find new friends and new experiences whereas everyone else from college were kind of just continuing the life I once lead. And that's okay, but I realised it wasn't my life anymore. 

The moral of the story is: it's a hundred percent okay to outgrow people.

BODY SHAMING.

We're in 2016 yet body shaming is still a thing. Putting people down is still a thing. 

I never really got what the point of body shaming is, I don't want to go into technicalities about bigger or smaller people, I think we should just let people live how they want and not comment on it. If they're a happy size 16 - let them be happy. If they're a happy size 6 - let them be. Bringing someone else down to make yourself feel better is never and will never be in style.

But being nice will.

SNAPCHAT DOG FILTER.

Now, if you have snapchat you'll know that the app has a plethora (God, swallow a dictionary Natalie??) of different filters ranging from face swap to having your mouth as eyes, turning from a devil to a angel and even being a crazy rabid bunny. 

But the one filter I cannot tolerate is the dog filter. Now, I don't hate what it looks like, or the fact the tongue sticks out when your open your mouth. I hate how it is used. 

Now I don't agree with people calling it a 'hoe filter' that's just a slur people use on social media to get more likes. I just don't get when someone lets say, is going to the shop they then decide to use the filter and caption it: 'off to the shop'. (Not based on a true story) (totally is). Now, I don't mind if you just post the selfie of the dog but to then caption it that you're going to the shop is completely pointless to me.

Let's not get started about people using it as their Twitter/Facebook photo, shall we?

SPRING IS HERE. NOBODY PANIC. 

It's the time of year where the clocks go forward, it's also that time of year where you say "Spring? It's April already? But it was just Christmas yesterday?!" 

If you're saying this too, you are not alone. 

Although I'm glad I can finally put away the thick coats and knee high boots I'm also not that excited about Spring. Spring is probably my least favourite season, even after winter - at least with winter you can wear a huge thick jumpers and leggings and call it an outfit but in Spring you can't do that. It's not hot enough for bare legs yet thick tights are uncomfortable. No jacket is good enough and don't get me started on what shoes to wear - boots? too hot, sandals? far too cold, pumps? maybe but when it gets darker it's then colder and you're back to square one again.

Spring, I'm happy you're here but you're not that welcome. I miss you Summer.

MADE IN CHELSEA IS BACK.

So, if you love MIC just as much as I do and have watched it since it started then you'll be happy that it's finally back gracing our tv screens.

I have watched it since the very first episode back in 2011 when everyone was asking 'will they, won't they?' with Caggie and Spencer, when Boulle was in it(MISS YOU BOULLE), Ollie and Gabriella dated(lol) and Lucy, Jamie and Louise weren't even in it(weird, right?!) 

I'm not a huge tv person but there are very few tv series that I watch and love; MIC being one of them.

I was a little disappointed to learn that Spencer wouldn't be in this series, he's been in it since the beginning and I guess I thought he would always be in it - even though he is a massive a-hole he's kind of like MIC royalty. 

I think Rosie, Binky, Ollie and Mark-Francis are the only originals left now, Jamie was introduced series 2 along with Victoria and Louise. Lucy came in series 4 which I cannot believe - I feel like they've been in it years. 

Anywaaaaay, I'm glad it's back - I'm excited to see how things turn out for Binky and JP(she needs to dump him), and I don't like the new Olivia girl. I did laugh when Sam called Tiff(his girlfriend) Toff who is his girl bestfriend - Freudian slip there mate?

LIKED: The fact it's back, how sassy Lucy is and the awkward exchange between Sam and Tiff.

DISLIKED: No Spenny or Proudlock(my bae). 

So that's all I have to talk about today but I'm sure there's going to be lots more! 

Thanks for reading!

Natalie xx

TOP TEN: Annoyances.

Hello, hi and welcome! So, I don't know about you but I have a lot of 'pet peeves' or life hacks if you will. 

I think it's a lot easier to get annoyed now as there is the wonderful world of social media where you are able to see things that you don't necessarily agree with, or your ex boyfriends new girlfriends constant Instagram update of how much she loves him. Puke.

So I thought I would give you my top ten annoyances which are mainly to do with social media. Enjoy.

TEN:

The person who thinks it is necessary to caption their Instagram selfie with a song lyric. 

Most of the time it has nothing to do with the photo. For instance; a toothy smile selfie with lyrics from an Adele song.

Doesn't work babes, lyrics and photos aren't a thing. They haven't been since 2009.

NINE:

The foodie. 

Every once in a while I redeem it necessary for you to share a photo of your food, I am not one to really do this but I think it is okay.

 

In moderation.

But if you upload a photo of your maccies from 2am last night in the Nashville filter - I will most likely unfollow you.

EIGHT:

Those people who bash people for using filters. 'Oh you use filters? I don't. #nofilter' 

I'm glad you're not using a filter but you're actually worse than people who do use filters. Unfortunately, you can't get an award for not using a filter but if you could you'd get the giant arsehole award. 

SEVEN:

Those people who have the overwhelming impulse to tell you they love tea and cats in their bio.

 I don't need to elaborate, do I?

SIX:

People who don't order anything when you get something to eat but then ask you if your food is nice and if they could 'try some'. 

You either get food or you don't come. I am not a food bank.

FIVE:

People who constantly attention seek by saying their life is a mess. 

This can either be via social media or during social gatherings like sleepovers. These people are everywhere and I have no time for it, if you're staying round my place I want fun not you crying about something not that important whilst I'm trying to enjoy Zac Efron on my screen.

FOUR:

People who bash other music genres/artists/people who like a certain artist. 

I like a variety of music and I hate how it is more socially acceptable for me to say I like The 1975 than it is to say I like One Direction. It's music snobbery and it's pathetic. Liking a band or singer doesn't make you any less human or valuable. I LOVE YOU HARRY STYLES.

THREE:

'I read the book before the film.' 

CONGRATULATIONS, you win nothing. These type of people grind my gears. FYI it's not always good to read books first because I tried to read Twilight but I was SO bored I put it down after a chapter, and I've seen twenty minutes of the first film and yet again got bored. Snore.

TWO:

People who have over 100 seconds on their snapchat of the night before. 

Okay so we've all been there, we've all been excited with our mates and want everyone to know how amazing our night out is, so what is the best way to annoy people without posting constantly on insta? 

Snapchat.

I won't lie, I myself have had a 100 second or so snapchat story. But it's when it's over that and it's just you absolutely hammered trying to dance in those awful over-priced Topshop heels you shouldn't have ever bought. That's when there's a problem.

 I have people on snapchat who must spend more time uploading than actually partying. Please stop. We all tap through as quickly as possible babes.

ONE:

The 'About Last Night' posts.

 If you have ever posted a photo of you from the night out before with the caption 'about last night' delete it. I almost feel violated when I see people post photos with this caption. An invasion on my human rights. And DON'T get me started on when people '#' it. We'd be here all night.

Hope you enjoyed my random rambling. Until next time..

Natalie xx